I was going through my email when one of my old secondary school friend send me an email. It was title "Fall you should but you will still stand up". Inside the email was an attachment of an video. The video feature a man who had lost both of his hands and one of his limp. He was able to joke with the student using the only limp he had. During the show, he show the student that no matter how hard life is, you will still stand up and start walking again. Even for people like him, there will be a point when you fall and you wont want to get up anymore. He say "if you try to get up 100 times and you fail, do you give up?" His answer was "If i give up, i will never get up". Even you had to try the 101 times or more, you should never give up. Life is about falling down and learning to stand up again.
In life, we will fall. But everytime we fall, we stand up and start walking again. If we allow ourself to fall and stay there then we are allowing ourself to fall forever. In my previous post "What is life", i talk about loving those around you. In this post, i would like to add on "Fall we shall but we shall stand up again".
Life is about Ups and Downs but it is how we chose to treat it. If we fall for our Downs then we shall never get up. If we fall and we starts to stand up, we shall be walking again. Here i pay my tribute to this video. The man who fall and get up, Nick
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Friday, March 20, 2009
A new product added to our family
Last sunday, a new product by the name of Wii is added into our family. It was something that my wife had wanted for a very long time. Don know for what reason, i actually go all the way to the west part of singapore to get it for her!!! haha... that was also one of the scarliest day i had since i first driving. It was raining so big that i can't see what is in front of me. The visuality is like less than 1 metre of my front screen. I had to turn on my hazard light to warn those behind me that i was in front of them. For some moment, cars are stopping by the road side to avoid driving in the rain as it was getting dangerous. Trees are falling and i was lucky not to be hit by one.
Many trees are uproot by the strong rain and it was later reported in the news that a car was hit by a falling tree. Lucky no one was injured. After all the scare encounter i had, i am finally managed to get the Wii from the seller. That started our "sleepness night"..............
Many trees are uproot by the strong rain and it was later reported in the news that a car was hit by a falling tree. Lucky no one was injured. After all the scare encounter i had, i am finally managed to get the Wii from the seller. That started our "sleepness night"..............
Saturday, March 7, 2009
What the problem??
It's 3am in the early morning of sunday. There i was unable to sleep. My wife have once again cried because of me. Time and again i had made her sad. Time and again she cried. She cried not because i had made her sad, she cried because i had not changed. What the problem in our relationship? I blamed her her everything but i fail to see that the main problem does not lies with her but it's with me. I am the main reason why our relationship had deteriorate.
I am a very selfish person who only thinks about mine benefits. I go to show i wanted to watch and not to those she wanted. I go to places i wanted to go and not to those she wanted. When we go out, i don hold her hand or talk to her. I walk by myself because i walk faster than she does. I blame her for walking slowly. But i didn't realise that all the while, i was the one who is having the problem.
The problem lies with me being a person who treats others better than my own family members. She was right about i am able to talk more to people who is not my family and to treat them better. I treat my own families members shabbily and do not care about their feelings. Not only that, i treat them coldly. I am able to give advice to people who faces the same problem but when it come to mines, I'm unable to do so.
Last night, i was thinking and thinking over it. What the real problem with me? I realise that i am a person who is not determine, not aggressive towards my goals, a timid person who bully's my families and one who are not serious towards everything in my life. I always wanted to lose weight and to set up my own businesses. I used to run 3 times every week but not anymore. I had become a person who is lazy, only want to enjoy and not paying it back. Even in work and studies that i seek the easy way out. I don't go for things that i know if difficult and when i am assign to tasks that i am not familiar of, i chicken out. I'm easily frustrated with my families members and i had a bad temper. But when it come to friends or stranger, i can control it and be a nice man to them.
Now that i know my problems, how do i go about changing it? There is a saying "3 days to learn a habit but 3 years to unlearn it". I had learn all my bad habits and it is time that i had to do something to it. I MUST unlearn all the bad habits and cultivate habits that are beneficial to me and to those around me. Habits such as giving care and concern to my loves one, the ability to express myself to them, not afraid to the negative feedback's, to control my bad temper and not jump to conclusion before knowing all the facts, cultivate good working and studying attitude and lastly, to make my relationship with my wife and family, a understanding and loving one. To change is to progress;To stay in the same spot is to say NO to life and opportunities. I MUST change for the better and i MUST succeed in it. That is a promise to me and one that must be keep.
I am a very selfish person who only thinks about mine benefits. I go to show i wanted to watch and not to those she wanted. I go to places i wanted to go and not to those she wanted. When we go out, i don hold her hand or talk to her. I walk by myself because i walk faster than she does. I blame her for walking slowly. But i didn't realise that all the while, i was the one who is having the problem.
The problem lies with me being a person who treats others better than my own family members. She was right about i am able to talk more to people who is not my family and to treat them better. I treat my own families members shabbily and do not care about their feelings. Not only that, i treat them coldly. I am able to give advice to people who faces the same problem but when it come to mines, I'm unable to do so.
Last night, i was thinking and thinking over it. What the real problem with me? I realise that i am a person who is not determine, not aggressive towards my goals, a timid person who bully's my families and one who are not serious towards everything in my life. I always wanted to lose weight and to set up my own businesses. I used to run 3 times every week but not anymore. I had become a person who is lazy, only want to enjoy and not paying it back. Even in work and studies that i seek the easy way out. I don't go for things that i know if difficult and when i am assign to tasks that i am not familiar of, i chicken out. I'm easily frustrated with my families members and i had a bad temper. But when it come to friends or stranger, i can control it and be a nice man to them.
Now that i know my problems, how do i go about changing it? There is a saying "3 days to learn a habit but 3 years to unlearn it". I had learn all my bad habits and it is time that i had to do something to it. I MUST unlearn all the bad habits and cultivate habits that are beneficial to me and to those around me. Habits such as giving care and concern to my loves one, the ability to express myself to them, not afraid to the negative feedback's, to control my bad temper and not jump to conclusion before knowing all the facts, cultivate good working and studying attitude and lastly, to make my relationship with my wife and family, a understanding and loving one. To change is to progress;To stay in the same spot is to say NO to life and opportunities. I MUST change for the better and i MUST succeed in it. That is a promise to me and one that must be keep.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
What is life?
What is life??? The question that i had been thinking of these days. What is life to me? What is life to you? Is your answer the same as mine? The answer to that question defer from everyone. What keeps me thinking about that question came from what someone wrote in a goodbye card. It wrote " wish you a better future. Earn lots of $$". When i 1st saw that message, i was thinking life isn't everything about $$. That thought had since been in head.
What is life? Is life about Money? Is life about living in big houses and drive big car? Is life about helping those who are less fortunate than you? Is life about making an impact on someone life? Everyone answer to this question defers from each another. While i was typing this blog, my good dear cousin who is in Denmark gave me her answer. To her life is about living as happy as you can, enjoying what you are doing and do not have any regret, that is life. Her definition of life is what every other had said or wanted but are they able to attain what they had said or wish for? Many had said and many had fail. While the answer to this question differentiate from one another, let me say about what is life to me.
Life to me is about changing someone life, making an impact on someone so on the day i draw my less breath, i can vividly recall what i had done to make someone life better. so on the day of my funeral, those that i had help and those i care for will remember me for what i am and how i had make a better life for them.
On one of the books that i had read, this one book make an impact on me. The title: "7 habits of highly effective person" is one book that i would recommend everyone to read and most importantly, learn what is being taught in it. on one of the habits, the opening paragraph say" imagine you are walking through a hall where everyone is weeping. at the end of the hall lies a coffin. Those who you had walk pass is weeping sadly. There are people from many different walks of life. These are the people who you had help and make an impact on them. They had come to give their last respect to the one in the coffin. As you walk to the coffin and look into it, you realise that the one who lies inside is you. How do you feel? Do you feel that you are love and respect? What is the one thing that you had done to make so many to come forward to say "thank you for making this cruel and cold world a better place to live in". What is the one thing that you had done to deserve all these love and respect. The answer is that you had make an impact on someone life.
It 3am in the middle of the night and the radio is playing song from the 80s and 90s. Most of it are love song while some are sad song. The mood that i am having now is different from the one i had before. After i realise that all the time i had been living in a body without a soul, i had decided to change the way i live. I will no say "NO" to everything that come in my way. Saying "NO" is as though saying no to opportunity that may come when i say "Yes". I may had made an impact on someone life if i had say "Yes". To say "Yes" is to live an life full of opportunity and hope and to say "No" is to live in a body without a soul. So the answer to what is life is to say "Yes" to Life!!!!!!! Say "Yes" and you will notice how it had change the way you live your life. Say "Yes" when someone approaches you to ask for help. Say "yes" when the newspaper are inviting volunteer to help those less fortunate than us.
What is life? Is life about Money? Is life about living in big houses and drive big car? Is life about helping those who are less fortunate than you? Is life about making an impact on someone life? Everyone answer to this question defers from each another. While i was typing this blog, my good dear cousin who is in Denmark gave me her answer. To her life is about living as happy as you can, enjoying what you are doing and do not have any regret, that is life. Her definition of life is what every other had said or wanted but are they able to attain what they had said or wish for? Many had said and many had fail. While the answer to this question differentiate from one another, let me say about what is life to me.
Life to me is about changing someone life, making an impact on someone so on the day i draw my less breath, i can vividly recall what i had done to make someone life better. so on the day of my funeral, those that i had help and those i care for will remember me for what i am and how i had make a better life for them.
On one of the books that i had read, this one book make an impact on me. The title: "7 habits of highly effective person" is one book that i would recommend everyone to read and most importantly, learn what is being taught in it. on one of the habits, the opening paragraph say" imagine you are walking through a hall where everyone is weeping. at the end of the hall lies a coffin. Those who you had walk pass is weeping sadly. There are people from many different walks of life. These are the people who you had help and make an impact on them. They had come to give their last respect to the one in the coffin. As you walk to the coffin and look into it, you realise that the one who lies inside is you. How do you feel? Do you feel that you are love and respect? What is the one thing that you had done to make so many to come forward to say "thank you for making this cruel and cold world a better place to live in". What is the one thing that you had done to deserve all these love and respect. The answer is that you had make an impact on someone life.
It 3am in the middle of the night and the radio is playing song from the 80s and 90s. Most of it are love song while some are sad song. The mood that i am having now is different from the one i had before. After i realise that all the time i had been living in a body without a soul, i had decided to change the way i live. I will no say "NO" to everything that come in my way. Saying "NO" is as though saying no to opportunity that may come when i say "Yes". I may had made an impact on someone life if i had say "Yes". To say "Yes" is to live an life full of opportunity and hope and to say "No" is to live in a body without a soul. So the answer to what is life is to say "Yes" to Life!!!!!!! Say "Yes" and you will notice how it had change the way you live your life. Say "Yes" when someone approaches you to ask for help. Say "yes" when the newspaper are inviting volunteer to help those less fortunate than us.
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